Bowled Over..

  I was recently privileged have this information brought to my attention... My daughter's father, who can't seem to find the time to get a job - did find time to join a bowling league,  recently got kicked out of the bowling alley because he threw a bowling ball at a fellow teammate for "making fun of him and embarrassing him."  In what world does this happen?  Apparently, he the teammate was hurt and bruised severely in the incident - however, no charges were filed (of course).   If a grown man can cause such rage -  imagine what a two year old can do!  My daughter is my life, and this is extremely upsetting that my daughter could be subjected to this... My question is - How can I incorporate this into my case against him?  Am I just expected to sit around and hope that my daughter never experiences this or worse?

Let's talk Dead Beat...

    When I got pregnant, three years ago, I couldn't help but feel scared and alone.  I had been in a "relationship" for a year, and not once did he  pull his weight.  All I heard was " the economy is to bad" and "I'm looking for work".  Realistically he was at bars with friends and gallivanting all over town.  Meantime, I worked two jobs and took care of my beautiful baby girl.  I was told by my attorney that I had to move out of his residence (a feat that was terrifying - knowing that I couldn't afford my rent)  But I did it.  He was levied child support, which he has never paid - but he can seem to take jobs "under the table".  How convenient.  And of course the courts don't address the bad behavior - but they have no problem sending you to co-parent counseling... Now I am not here to bash co-parent counseling, it is my understanding that it has worked for people - but in my case it is a joke and I feel like its a easy way for the courts to just "pass you off" to the next person..  Why is this not being taken seriously?  How can someone be expected to be called a parent if they aren't willing to give 110%?