Friday, April 22, 2011
Let's talk Dead Beat...
When I got pregnant, three years ago, I couldn't help but feel scared and alone. I had been in a "relationship" for a year, and not once did he pull his weight. All I heard was " the economy is to bad" and "I'm looking for work". Realistically he was at bars with friends and gallivanting all over town. Meantime, I worked two jobs and took care of my beautiful baby girl. I was told by my attorney that I had to move out of his residence (a feat that was terrifying - knowing that I couldn't afford my rent) But I did it. He was levied child support, which he has never paid - but he can seem to take jobs "under the table". How convenient. And of course the courts don't address the bad behavior - but they have no problem sending you to co-parent counseling... Now I am not here to bash co-parent counseling, it is my understanding that it has worked for people - but in my case it is a joke and I feel like its a easy way for the courts to just "pass you off" to the next person.. Why is this not being taken seriously? How can someone be expected to be called a parent if they aren't willing to give 110%?
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Co-Parent counseling, in my opinion, should be reserved for those who are attempting to work through the many problems associated with parenting--as a couple. Those, such as yourself, who have separated, need to be able to rely on the courts because in most cases communications have broken down. When one parent "refuses" to work and will not willingly support their child(ren) they should have no rights to their child(ren)until they comply. Children, like all others in the world do not live free of charge. I seem to remember a former First Lady making the statement "it takes a village to raise a child." I disagree. It takes responsible parents to raise a child. Responsibility means being willing to support your child financially as well as emotionally.
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